A Quick Insight to Elopements

Times have changed, and so has the definition of eloping!

From going to the grocery store, to simply going out to a restaurant, we function in a whole new way of life. I think it’s safe to say that the world has completely changed. Way back in the day, eloping was viewed as a very secretive way to get married by “running away” and not telling any family or friends. Today, eloping has a whole new meaning and I’m here to give you some insight on what exactly it means now, and how you can do it! You can even still involve your loved ones!

WHAT ELOPING is TODAY

When it comes to defining an elopement, there is no one-size-fits-all definition. It really depends on what you value most. For me, an elopement means prioritizing your relationship and personal values while enjoying a day that’s tailored to your interests and spent with those who matter most to you.
Some people assume that eloping means sacrificing the specialness of a big wedding day, but I actually think it’s the opposite. Imagine having just one day to create the most perfect day ever. That’s precisely what an elopement offers. You can truly do whatever you want on your wedding day and make it a day to remember forever.

Who are elopements for?

It really depends on your personal values and interests. If you are the type of couple who prefers to keep things personal and private, eloping would be a good option for you. On the other hand, if you’re the couple who wants to have a day of adventure with your significant other, and create a day that is 100% catered to what you both love to do, eloping is definitely worth considering.

One of the best things about eloping is that there are no rules, and you can make it a day all about you and what you want to do.

Common myths about eloping… and busting them!

MYTH 1: They’re illegal & secret!

It’s true that depending on the state or country where you get married, there may be licenses and regulations to follow, just like with a traditional wedding. But elopements are still viewed as 100% legal marriages. While it’s possible to keep your elopement a secret, it’s not mandatory. Many couples choose to tell their close friends and family before they elope and even include them on the day of. Those who truly love and support your decisions will be there for you no matter how you go about it. As Bernard Baruch said, “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

MYTH 2: They’re only meant for 2 people!

FALSE. Many people believe that when a couple elopes, it’s just the two of them and maybe an officiant and a photographer. However, this is not always the case. Even if you choose to elope, you can still involve your family and friends in the celebration. You can plan a full day of activities with your significant other and invite your loved ones to a dinner party or small reception later in the evening. Just because eloping is often associated with secrecy doesn’t mean it has to remain that way.

MYTH 3: They have to be an action-packed day.

It is easy to scroll through Instagram and come across beautiful pictures of couples who elope in stunning national parks, taking on intense hikes that last all day long to capture the most breathtaking views. However, not everyone is up for such an adventure, and that is perfectly fine. Remember, your elopement day should be tailored to your preferences. Just imagine your perfect day and add some vows to it.

MYTH 4: You only get 1-2 hours of photos.

Is that all you want to remember? If you were to have a full traditional wedding and hire a photographer, they would probably be there for anywhere from 6 to 10 hours. So why should your elopement have any less coverage? It’s still the day you’re getting married, and you deserve to remember every moment from start to finish – from getting ready to the ceremony, from activities to dinner, and all the in-between moments. Don’t let anyone tell you that your elopement doesn’t deserve the same amount of attention and documentation as a traditional wedding.

MYTH 5: They’re just to save money.

While eloping is often considered a more affordable alternative to a traditional wedding, that’s not necessarily the main reason why couples choose to elope. It’s more about the experience and planning a day that truly reflects the couple’s desires, rather than trying to please everyone else. Elopements allow couples to break free from societal norms and expectations and focus on what matters most to them – each other. So, don’t let anyone tell you that eloping is a “cheap” option. It’s a meaningful and intentional way of celebrating your love.

MYTH 6: They have to be a courthouse wedding.

Eloping allows you to get married anywhere you want – by a waterfall, in the middle of the woods, at your favorite brewery, or even on a river. The possibilities are truly endless! Just make sure that if your desired location requires a permit, you obtain one. Don’t worry, I can help you with that. The key is to choose a location that speaks to you and your partner and makes your elopement day truly special and unforgettable.

So what does a full elopement day look like?

Let’s use your imagination and plan the perfect elopement day! Since it’s your special day, think about what it would look like if you could plan the best day ever. Where would you like to go? What would you like to eat? What activities would you like to do? And who would you like to spend the day with? You can start your day with some breakfast in bed and a relaxing morning of getting ready before embarking on a day filled with adventure leading to your elopement spot. Then, head to a private dinner with your close friends and family. Alternatively, you can wake up at sunrise and spend the day exploring and hiking to your ceremony location, followed by a picnic and a night filled with music and brews! If you’re looking to travel outside the country, this is your chance to take that trip you’ve always been dreaming of. The possibilities are endless, and the most important thing is to create a day that reflects your love and relationship.

Heidi, from Buck Hollow Creative, is a photographer based out of Central, PA including Harrisburg, Hershey & beyond! If you’re planning your dream wedding, then I’d love to chat with you! Currently booking 2024 weddings. I serve all of Pennsylvania and are willing and able to travel!
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